Yet again I should be doing work.
Yet again I am not.
Yet again I am not.
Rather I am contemplating the laws of attraction.
Tuning into 'Love Song Dedications' I'm hearing all these people calling up and saying
'I want to dedicate to my beautiful girlfriend ---- she's so wonderful and been there for me after all these years and I just want to thank her'
'I want to dedicate to my beautiful girlfriend ---- she's so wonderful and been there for me after all these years and I just want to thank her'
or
' *sob* My, my boyfriend broke up with me, I miss him so much and I just want him to know that I still love him and I need him to take me back...I want to play our song to remind him of us'
or
'there's this girl I've been friends with and I kind of like her, she doesn't know but I can't stop thinking about her...'
You get the point right?
It's all pretty generic, it's always the same stuff and yet people listen, yet I listen. I suppose it's the same reason that the 'Here's Looking At You' column in Mx is so popular, people like to hope that someone's going to send a message out to them, people like to go 'aaaaww' at the sappy stuff and wish for their own love story and then people like to mock it.
I guess I find it all so puzzling because when I was younger I, like many others, grew up on Disney movies and happily ever afters, love always conquers all and there are never any problems. But it seems that reality is so much more complicated than that. I'd always thought that you'd grow up, fall in love and that'd be it.
It'd never be a question of 'do they love me back?' that's just ridiculous, of course they love you back! How else could it possibly be an epic love story?
Truth is love doesn't conquer all, you can love someone with everything you've got and they don't want to know you, people are together for years and then get bored.
It seems like there is no hope, there's no chance of ever finding fulfillment and happiness in love, we should just throw it away and focus on something else.
I mean attraction is just nature trying to make more babies isn't it? Well...I suppose that would be hard if you're gay...but that shouldn't stop you trying!
So if it's all just about sex then why do we entertain ourselves with fantasies of 'forever', 'undying' and 'in sickness and in health'. I'm not denying that those feelings aren't there, people definitely feel those things it's just that it never works out, something always gets in the way.
And yet we continue to hope.
3 comments:
Wow, that's kind of depressing. I think we'd all like to believe that love can work out like it's meant to in the fairytales etc. And it does for some lucky people. But yeah, maybe we put too much emphasis on the "happily ever after" idea and dismiss the concept of love as something malleable and passing. I think even a brief love should be valuable, even if it's not the sort of thing you dream about as a little girl. Essentially I just think people are scared of being alone. We know that we came into life alone and that we're going out alone, and we need some companionship to distract ourselves from that in the meantime. And also it separates us from the animal notion of the chain of life, of basic survival... it elevates us, makes us feel like more than just a collection of molecules. I don't know really, it's all just theories. Sigh.
i sigh as well.
haha I think I was in a slightly cynical mood last night, though I still think there was some truth to that.
Oh how I'd love to believe that it's all possible, I guess the main problem is that the media makes it out as though it's something automatic and involves no effort, when really it does because it's two people having to work together. But I guess that doesn't really go along with the whole 'fairytale' concept and little kids can't really understand that...or maybe they can and we just underestiimate them.
I think if it was presented more realistically then there'd be less heartbreak because then no one's expecting Edward bloody Cullen!
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