The List

I was listening to the radio and they were talking about this new 'thing' similar to The Secret, come to think of it i may have heard of it before...hmm. Anyway this is called 'The List' and basically it involves you sitting down and writing a list of the attributes you'd look for in a potential partner, these are things you'd desire most and apparently you should go nuts over it because why sell yourself short? It's supposed to work along the same lines as The Secret in that by writing down what you want you're sending the energy out into the universe and so increasing the chances of it coming back to you. Kind of like when you set goals, you write them down somewhere and tick things off as you achieve them and usually once you've written it down or said it out loud it becomes much more do-able and this is supposed to go along the same principle.
The girl on the radio said that a few of her friends tried it and they ended up finding people within a couple of months who fitted those attributes and they didn't even have to try too hard.

Whether or not you choose to believe it is another thing, but I tend to think that these kind of things are completely possible, why not?

I'm really curious about this now, does it actually work or is it just a 'state of mind' thing? Does it matter if people end up getting what they want in the end?

Why do people not feel like they're complete without a significant other? Why can't they just be happy on their own? Is your own company really that bad? Why can't you fulfill yourself emotionally, intellectually and spirtually? Physically I suppose people have 'needs'...
I understand that people get lonely but unless you're 40 something I don't think you should run around being all 'omg I'm so alone my life is a mess, I feel so terrible kill me now'. It's just annoying that society keeps telling us that we need to be with someone, that we're inadequate unless we have a significant other because otherwise we're clearly not cute/hot/intelligent/witty/funny or otherwise attractive enough to the opposite or same sex.
Nor am I saying that people shouldn't be in relationships, if you've found someone you really like who also likes and respects you then by all means go for it! I just don't think that people should feel that they have to be with someone in order to feel confident and self-assured, because if you are not comfortable with yourself and by yourself then how can you ever truly give yourself to someone?